Lest You Boast

So this one holiday, I was staying at my grandpa’s house. And while I was there, I took care of some newly planted flowers and my did they grow!! Lol I was exceptionally proud! And whenever someone mentioned anything to do with them, I immediately said “That’s my doing. That’s all me!” Lol 

Anyway, my behaviour brought a very interesting concept to mind. I recalled a verse I found quite captivating; Ephesians 2:8-9:

  • For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith- and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God- not by works, so that no one can boast.

Here, the Bible tells us that we’re not saved by our works “…lest we boast…”. Lest we boast! Lest we boast, ladies and gentlemen! I know so many of us think we’re Christians because of our works; because of how we dress, how we conduct ourselves, how often we go to church, how often we pray, how we choose our friendships etc but noope! We are saved by grace, sweet sweet amazing Grace! 😌😌😌 Its not about you or me or what we’ve done or to whom we’ve done it! It is solely by God’s Grace that we’ve been saved to be called His Children.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Rom. 5:8, NIV)

Too often we “Christians” or “Saved People” look down on the “sinners” in the world because of their actions. We think we’re better than they are. But it is written “For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23) Not some, ALL. We have all sinned. We have all failed God at some point. We are no different from the “sinner” we say is going to hell because we go to church every week. Our  actions are not the reason we’re saved. We are saved because God showed us unending Love and Amazing Grace in spite of all the wrong we had done.

It is not our works that have saved us. We are not Christians because we go to church every week, we are Christians because God granted us mercy even though we are undeserving. It is so easy for us to boast about something we’ve earned or accomplished by working ( like me and the flowers, lol) but that’s not how it works with salvation. We cannot boast about salvation being our own doing. That just implies that God’s love isn’t boundless. That He cannot love you if you do not do A,B,C. 

  • We love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19, NIV)

The Bible tells us God is always waiting on us to turn to Him. (1 John 1:9)  He is always there in spite of what we do. Because God’s Grace is simply that; Grace-unmerited favour.

Remember, God tells us:

  • I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. (Jeremiah 31:3) 

Until next time my loves

Kween Lotus 👸


Of Loti of the Opposite Sex

​Hey y’all I do hope you have been well and blessed with numerous loti while I was away. I know I have. I come today not bearing loti as always but rather calling us (women) to look at WHO our lotuses are. 

I’ve seen a few friends get married in the past month and they were all very beautiful. And it got me thinking, so these young women were sure that these men were it for them? I mean honey are you sure? Are you sure you want to spend the REST of your life with this person? What if they switch up and decide they don’t want you anymore? Or they change and become something you don’t like? What if they have been pretending to be someone/something they’re not just so you can marry them? Questions, questions! Now don’t get me wrong here, I have nothing against marriage-I actually believe in the sanctity of marriage (when it’s for life, it’s for life y’all. No backsies LOL)

So anyway, while I was dwelling on all these thoughts, I came across a post on social media that told of a young girl in South African who had been murdered by her boyfriend. It was very heartbreaking. I mean here is a girl that thought that this guy was someone she loved and loved her in return and she could trust him. And maybe these guys were even planning on a future together. I don’t have all the details of what exactly happened between this young woman (God rest her soul) and her boyfriend and all that. But I know nothing, I mean absolutely nothing, can justify the murder. 

When I followed the post, I saw many other women coming forward and giving their accounts of various forms of abuse that they have suffered at the hands of men- strangers, friends and even family .My heart breaks for the young women that have had to grow up feeling less than human because of what some man did to them early on in life. This does not mean to say that it’s okay to abuse older women, it isn’t. It will never be okay to abuse anyone at all-men, women, old or young, black or white, none of that matters. We all deserve to be treated with respect.

I am firm believer in doing to others as you would have them do unto you. So please my dear loti readers, treat others as you would have them treat you. Remember, you are the change you want to see in the world. It begins with you!

Be the lotus someone sees today! 

As always, all my love

Kween Lotus 

Diary of a Mad Black Woman 2

Hey all! Welcome to the segment of my blog where I mostly just vent and go over all that has been happening in my life. Lol so let’s dive right in!

So like I said in the previous post, I’m doing a lot of introspection- a journey of self-awareness if you will. And I must say, its been most enlightening. I won’t bore you with the details. But I will say this though; I’m a work in progress. 😂😂 aren’t we all though? But really, I can clearly see my flaws and how they negatively impact others and I’m working on them as best as I can. 😊 so progress right? 

Moving on. My graduation is coming up! Yay! 😄 I can’t wait to officially get that paper 🎓 and that other paper too 💰 but you know,  one step at a time.😉 I can’t wait to see my best friend, Melz and of course my other friends Norah, Sam, Sam (can’t have too many Sam’s in life 😁),  Mieke, Mfumu, of course my classmates… basically it will be great seeing everyone again. I’m just getting used to the idea of not going back to school so yeah, it will be fun.

Oh and then job-hunting. 😧 Boy, someone should have warned me at least. It’s a tough tough world out here y’all. But we’re working on it. Slowly and surely. And by His Grace, I know something will come up soon.

In the meantime, I’ve been reading and exploring. Adulting is hard life hey? And for a lowkey OCD person like myself, the need to plan and micromanage the direction my life takes is really high. Lol but I’m learning sometimes things don’t go as planned and that’s okay. You just revisit and revise and keep on going. There’s surely a lotus in every tough spot you hit. You just need to see it. 

For this week, I’m my own Lotus. I’m every tough situation, I’m my bright spot. I see all the positivity I need right inside me.  Don’t you? 😉😉

Your lotus might be closer than you think. 

Until next time 

Kween Lotus 👸

My Lotus Lately 

It’s been a month??! Well, actually a little over a month but still. It’s been a while since I last posted. I’m ashamed *hides face*. My apologies to you my virtual imaginary friends that keep up with my blog (Haha)

I wish I could say that I went for some sort of vacation and that’s why I was MIA but alas, it is not so. Maybe I’ve been lacking inspiration on what to write. But I’m here now! Hugs? Yes? No? Maybe? Okay then 🐥

I am still on the journey of finding myself. Recently I’ve been reflecting on my life, mostly the last four years-my mistakes, achievements, goals etc. And I really feel blessed to see how my friend Melz has been there.

There is literally a handful of stories I can remember from Uni where Melz wasn’t right there with me. This girl has been like a sister to me. We have been  through heartbreaks, getaways,business ventures and not to mention the madness that is Varsity, together. 

I remember we met in the very first week of school in first year. She was loud, I was loud. We were just bubbly and drawn to one another. We found ourselves opening up to each other easily, sharing our deepest fears and our fondest dreams alike. It was just so easy. Over the four years, we’ve grown together; always ready to listen and just help each other through it. When we said bye as we left school last year, we found each other crying. Lol so dramatic, I know. But it just showed the depth of our friendship. I love you, my Mel-bear.

Right now with this job-hunting craze, my dramatic self usually catches feelings and get depressed easily and who is there to comfort me and assure me? Melz. Even from thousands of kiometres away, I know my girl’s got me. She’s my very own lotus more often than not. 

Who is your lotus? I’d like to know.😊

All my love😙

Kween Lotus👸

Diary of a Mad Black Woman 

Hey all!

So “Diary of a Mad Black Woman” will be a segment of my blog where I discuss what’s going on in my life. This is the first of many many entries in my Diary of a Mad Black Woman. Enjoy! 

So this is me everyday:”I am bored!! I need things to do!” And then the next minute: “Gosh I am tired! It’s 6 already? Where did the day go?” Lol

Finishing undregrad has left me with plenty of time on my hands and while I’m grateful for having nothing stressing me after the torture final year put me through (it was HELL y’all! Lol), I am bored! I need something to keep me busy!

But being a black woman, an African woman more like, I am actually  always busy! I am the only child at home right now and as such, my chores and errands load is sky high! Literally everything is on me! This has me spending a good share of the day completing all the errands and chores I have to do. Afterwards, I catch up on reading, watch something and before you know it, its evening, the folks are home, I’m cooking dinner, we eat and the day is over!
Now there’s got to be more for me to do. Sometimes I wake up in the most foul moods because I’m just mad at the world and feel nothing is going for me 😤. And seeing and hearing others getting a start in life just makes me feel even lower. I’m just here like “when will MY big break come???” I literally have to tell myself “own lane, own pace, own race” a coupla times a day. I’m mature enought to know that others getting a head start does not mean I won’t get my own break. I’m just wondering when will it come??? 

On a brighter note, I passed my final exams!! 😄😄😄 With a credit even. Like I said, final year was a test of will power for me.💪 The struggle was soo real, man!😢😣 But it was a defining moment for me and having made it out alive and been awarded that degree is just AMAZING! There were moments I honestly thought I wouldn’t make it but the LORD has been faithful like He always is and I worked myself to the bone, so it was all worth in the end. 

But anyway, I digress. With all this time on my hands, I’ve decided to focus on working on me. So I’ve been working out, cooking and baking, spending more time with God, writing a few applications and just mapping out the direction of my life. All in all, I know I can’t do it on my own so I’m praying and casting all my burdens into Him. So until he opens another door, I’ll praise Him in the hallway. 

All my love

KweenLotus 👸

Introducing…. Kween Lotus! 

So why the name Kween Lotus or Lotus Kween. 

For those of you who don’t know, a lotus is a type of flower and it is associated with various ideas across cultures. This is due to the nature of the flower. The lotus is known to sprout out of dirty and unclean water and this is interpreted differently by different groups of people.

To me however, the lotus just symbolizes a simple truth… “beauty in the struggle” as my favourite rapper Jermaine Cole puts it. The lotus is a beautiful flower and the fact that it comes out of unclean, murky and dirty water just accentuates it’s beauty. I mean come on! It’s a fact we all know (and take for granted sometimes) that out of whatever struggle we go through, there is something good that comes out of it. 

Anyway, enough back story about the lotus flower. Lol so mainly I’m all for it; all for looking at the beauty in the struggle or the lotus(es)? (Not quite sure what the plural of lotus is.. I should look it up) in my life experiences. Now don’t get wrong here, I’m not already there but I want to be because I honestly feel we spend a great deal crying over the murky waters we’re in without noticing the lotus (es?)we have. 

But mostly what this blog is about is just me rambling, touching on different topics every week. It might be fun, it might be murky but we’re sure to see a lotus in there somewhere! 
Until next time, 

All my love!

Kween Lotus 👸